These are the visuals shown live in the class and in the video of it. Click here for a separate PDF file of them IF YOU ARE DIALING IN VIA VOICE ONLY--or want copies
After Class One (Preferably before Class Two)
Watch this 14min Video (Even if you are not staying up with reading, WATCH THIS VIDEO. I'd prefer not to have to show it in class.)
Read These--Prologue and Chapter One of HHFC (Health, Happiness, & Family Constellations)
The family soul values inclusion above all else. Agree or disagree. Explain why in 1 or 2 sentences.
Conscious sacrifices made by birth family members for the well-being of the whole group cause the most trouble for individuals after they have grown up and moved on in life. Explain why in 1 or 2 sentences.(NOTE--I didn't mention this in class; look for the answer in the last pages of Chapter One)
When an unaccepted, unprocessed trauma within the family soul surfaces again in descendants--it's usually a literal occurrence of the same events. Explain why in 1 or 2 sentences.
List four characteristics of the family soul that are explainable in terms of conventional understandings of human and animal behavior and one which is not. A phrase or sentence for each is plenty.
As a parent, you need to understand that any significant trauma that affects your family will be held in the family soul and cause trouble for your children or grandchildren. Explain why in 1 or 2 sentences.
Relevant Reading/Viewing Materials (optional)
Mark Wolynn, IT DIDN'T START WITH YOU (excellent book by one of my teachers) Patterson and Grenny, CRUCIAL CONVERSATIONS (my bible for group and team dynamics) Dawson Church, THE GENIE IN YOUR GENES Nova Documentary, THE GHOST IN YOUR GENES (may be blocked in your country) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X4ZqzdrLruk
Watch this Short Video Does our Perceptual System Allow us to See Things Absolutely "As They Are"? Some constellation facilitators talk about the "phenomenological point of view," via which they "only see what really is." Psychology and cognitive science have made it clear that, while it is possible to stay much more open and maintain a wide, "soft focus" (by trying to look at the whole system with as few preconceptions as possible)--in the absolute sense, no one sees "things as they really are."
Too many pre-conscious perceptual choices are made involving selective attention. A 20 year old male walks down the street, and sees 3 gorgeous women in 6 blocks. A 40 year old mother actually a couple steps away from him the whole six blocks sees two sets of young children with a parent. If you asked the man if he saw the children, he may well say there were no children passing by. The 49 year old mom saw no gorgeous women.
In my opinion, using my own language, what we want to do in facilitating is avoid "premature closure." Stay open, widely focused (via the butterfly method, picking symbolic flowers but letting them form their own bouquets), and keep track of the likely possible dynamics unfolding without fixating on one of them too early. From a shamanic point of view, it helps to think of the arrangement of representatives as a living entity trying to talk to you. That living entity is a specific manifestation of the FAMILY SOUL.
Here's the famous video that illustrates in the extreme this issue of the inevitable subjectivity and selectivity in human perception. It is a test of your attention. While you watch, you must keep a silent count of the number of passes made by the people in white shirts. How good are you at paying close attention and getting the correct count?Watch the video and do the best you can at counting the passes made by the people in the white shirts.How many times does the white shirted team pass the ball? Then hit the link below the video to find out how well you did.
The Intake and Setup phases of a classic family constellation always happen in sequence and are completely distinct from one another. Agree or disagree. Explain why in 1 or 2 sentences.
Getting the right information from the client (so that you know by the end of the intake interview what you are going to do to re-align the client's family system) is the most important aspect of all group constellation intake interviews. Agree or disagree. Explain why in 1 or 2 sentences.
Broadly focused client intentions (what the client wants to change) work very well in group family constellations. Agree or disagree. Explain why in 1 or 2 sentences.
What is "the butterfly method"? Why can it be useful in facilitating constellations? Explain in 1 or 2 sentences.
Explain what a "nudge" is as opposed to a "fudge." Describe in one or two sentences the possible or even likely effects on representatives of each one of these techniques.
Relevant Reading/Viewing Materials (optional) Emotional and Psychic Hygiene for Family Constellations—A Shamanic Perspective, The Knowing Field, January 2011. Reprinted in the Commemorative Issue distributed at the US Systemic Constellations Conference, October 2011. (Taking care of both facilitator and participants in family constellation workshops.) DOWNLOAD THIS ARTICLE HERE.If you are facilitating constellations regularly, you should read this article.
These are the visuals that will be shown in class. Click here to view a PDF with both images.
These will also be shown in class. Click here to view a PDF with all images.
Activities After Class Three
Training Readings--Chapter Three of HHFC (Health, Happiness, & Family Constellations).
Study Questions These are very important questions. Understanding the answers allows you to use the practical techniques in an open, exploratory, and healing manner.
Name and explain briefly 3 out of the 7 sources of hidden loyalties. A phrase or sentence for each is plenty.
What is meant by the phrase "loadsharing in the name of love" as it applies to the generational family soul? Explain in 1 or 2 sentences.
Why is it potentially problematic when "die ordnung der liebe" is translated into English as "the orders of love"? What is different when we translate it as "the tactics of love"? Explain each in 1 or 2 sentences.
What is your understanding of "optimizing the degrees of harmony and inclusion" in the family soul? What does this mean? Explain in 1 or 2 sentences.
What other optimization contributes to or detracts from the optimization of harmony and inclusion? Explain in 1 or 2 sentences.
What kinds of people, events, or feelings come to belong to a particular family soul? What can we say in general about those which do come to belong?Explain each in 1 or 2 sentences.
These are the visuals shown in class. Click here to view a PDF with all images.
Activities After Class Four
Training Readings--Chapter Four of HHFC (Health, Happiness, & Family Constellations).
Study Questions Once again, these are central questions. Understanding the answers allows you to use the practical techniques in an open, exploratory, and healing manner.
Name and explain three advantages of the home altar constellation form. A phrase or sentence for each is plenty.
Why does Michael feel that getting well-focused Desired Positive Change is important? What does he suggest doing to get one? A phrase or sentence for each is plenty.
In "unpacking" symbolism in natural or man made object-persons, you use intuitive hits and/or simply ask and answer a series of questions. What are those questions? A phrase or sentence for each is plenty.
What is the general guideline for determining how often you should visit your home altar? Explain in 1 or 2 sentences.
In setting up a home altar constellation, you take the desired positive change and then ask questions about two different areas. What are those areas? What are you looking for as you delve into those two areas? A phrase or sentence for each is plenty.
Training Readings-- Read the Epilogue to HHFC (Health, Happiness, & Family Constellations). Read also the EFTFreeManual. Click on the title in the last sentence to download it. Please also read my 750 word blog "Good Health as a Sacred Fire" listed below in Relevant Reading Material
What is threatening overwhelm to a person's nervous system called? Why is that name ambiguous? What are the two ways this can happen talked about in Chapter 5? Explain each in 1 or 2 sentences.
Name and briefly describe the four forms of infant attachment talked about in Chapter 5. Explain each in 1 or 2 sentences.
When an arousal of energy in one place causes similar energies to become active in another place that is called what? Explain in 1 or 2 sentences.
What is a "mirror neuron"? What is its function in the hard-wired, human, social empathy system? Explain each in 1 or 2 sentences.
List Michael's four guidelines for "healthy healing." Explain each in 1 or 2 sentences.
Relevant Reading Material
Michael Reddy, "Good Health as a Sacred Fire" (short blog), powerful metaphor for the problem materialistic specialism creates as it fails to understand chronic illnesses.
These are the visuals shown in class. Click on the images to download the full PDFs. I would suggest downloading the trauma diagrams because it is very good to use in explaining trauma to clients or general audiences.
Activities After Class Seven
Training Readings-- Read the the EFTFreeManual AGAIN, and learn the tapping points in order. Reread the TWR sections (last three boxes) of the handout you just downloaded (or download it now HERE if you watched it on the video but did not download it), and learn the very simple sequence of steps in TWR.
What part of the midbrain starts to shut down as stress or threatening overwhelm afflict a human nervous system? What actions of the left brain don't take place when this shutdown occurs? Explain in 1 or 2 sentences.
What does Michael mean when he says that "trauma scales"? Explain in 1 or 2 sentences.
What is the difference between a flashback and blurbacks? Which is more commonly encountered? Explain each in 1 or 2 sentences.
What does Michael mean when he says that "trauma cascades"? What are the four levels involved in this? Explain each in 1 or 2 sentences.
Michael names 5 ways that our subconscious social empathy systems connect us to one another. What are they?
Relevant Reading Material Patterson & Grenny, Crucial Conversations--Tools for Talking When the Stakes are High McGilchrist, Iain,The Master and His Emissary--The Divided Brain and the Making of the Western World Van der Kolk, Bessel, The Body Keeps the Score Benor, Daniel J. Seven Minutes to Natural Pain Release Craig, Gary. The EFT Manual. Gallo, Fred P. Energy Tapping for Trauma Levine, Peter A. In an Unspoken Voice Ogden, Minton, and Pain. Trauma and the Body Scaer, Robert. The Trauma Spectrum Siegel, Daniel J. Mindsight
These are the visuals shown in class. Click on the image to download the entire PDF.
Activities After Class Eight
What are some reasons to do a screening for inherited, ancestral trauma? Explain in 1 or 2 sentences.
Name at least 3 of the stages on the spectrum between slim and bulky constellations. Explain each in 1 or 2 sentences.
List 4 of the 8 guidelines for Setting Up the parts of entangled wholes (inner or outer families). Explain each in 1 or 2 sentences.
What is the rationale behind Michael's guideline "Personify Anything"? Explain in 1 or 2 sentences.
Why can we expect to find family-like structures in all kinds of human groups? Explain each in 1 or 2 sentences.
Relevant Reading Material Deborah Donndelinger, Family Energetics: A Revolutionary Approach To Heal the Past and Reshape Your Future Thaddeus Golas, Lazy Man's Guide to Enlightenment Insa Sparrer, Miracle, Solution and System
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