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Activities After Class One
Watch this 14min Video (Even if you don't do any reading. I will show the video again at the start of Class Two.)
Training Readings--Prologue and Chapter One of HHFC (Health, Happiness, & Family Constellations)
The family soul values inclusion above all else. Agree or disagree and explain why.
Conscious sacrifices made by birth family members for the well-being of the whole group cause the most trouble for individuals after they have grown up and moved on in life. Agree or disagree and explain why.
When an unaccepted, unprocessed trauma within the family soul surfaces again in descendants--it's usually a literal occurrence of the same events. Agree or disagree and explain why.
List four characteristics of the family soul that are explainable in terms of conventional understandings of human and animal behavior and one which is not.
As a parent, you need to understand that any significant trauma that affects your family will be held in the family soul and cause trouble for your children or grandchildren. Agree or disagree and explain why.
Training Readings--Chapter Two of HHFC (Health, Happiness, & Family Constellations).
Watch this Short Video Does our Perceptual System Allow us to See Things Absolutely "As They Are"? Some constellation facilitators talk about the "phenomenological point of view," via which they "only see what really is." Psychology and cognitive science have made it clear that, while it is possible to stay much more open and maintain a wide, "soft focus" (by trying to look at the whole system with as few preconceptions as possible)--in the absolute sense, no one sees "things as they really are."
Too many pre-conscious perceptual choices are made involving selective attention. A 20 year old male walks down the street, and sees 3 gorgeous women in 6 blocks. A 40 year old mother actually a couple steps away from him the whole six blocks sees two sets of young children with a parent. If you asked the man if he saw the children, he may well say there were no children passing by. The 49 year old mom saw no gorgeous women.
In my opinion, using my own language, what we want to do in facilitating is avoid "premature closure." Stay open, widely focused (via the butterfly method), and keep track of the likely possible dynamics unfolding without fixating on one of them too early. From a shamanic point of view, it helps to think of the arrangement of representatives as a living entity trying to talk to you. Yes, at some point, you need to choose one or two and THEN focus more on seeing if they can shift, but not right away.
Here's the famous video that illustrates in the extreme this issue of the inevitable subjectivity and selectivity in human perception. It is a test of your attention. While you watch, you must keep a silent count of the number of passes made by the people in white shirts. How good are you at paying close attention and getting the correct count?Watch the video and do the best you can at counting the passes made by the people in the white shirts.How many times does the white shirted team pass the ball? Then hit the link below the video to find out how well you did.
The Intake and Setup phases of a classic family constellation always happen in sequence and are completely distinct from one another. Agree or disagree, and explain why.
Getting the right information from the client (so that you know by the end of the intake interview what you are going to do to re-align the client's family system) is the most important aspect of all group constellation intake interviews. Agree or disagree and explain why.
Broadly focused client intentions (what the client wants to change) work very well in group family constellations. Agree or disagree and explain why.
What is "the butterfly method"? Why can it be useful in facilitating constellations?
Explain what a "nudge" is as opposed to a "fudge." Describe the possible or even likely effects on representatives of each one of these techniques.
Relevant Reading/Viewing Materials (optional) Emotional and Psychic Hygiene for Family Constellations—A Shamanic Perspective, The Knowing Field, January 2011. Reprinted in the Commemorative Issue distributed at the US Systemic Constellations Conference, October 2011. (Taking care of both facilitator and participants in family constellation workshops.) DOWNLOAD THIS ARTICLE HERE. If you are facilitating constellations regularly, you should read this article.
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Activities After Class Four
Training Readings--Chapter Four of HHFC (Health, Happiness, & Family Constellations).
Study Questions Once again, these are central questions. Understanding the answers allows you to use the practical techniques in an open, exploratory, and healing manner.
Name and explain three advantages of the home altar constellation form
Why does Michael feel that getting well-focused Desired Positive Change is important. What does he suggest doing to get one?
In "unpacking" symbolism in natural or man made object-persons, you use intuitive hits and/or simply ask and answer a series of questions. What are those questions?
What is the general guideline for determining how often you should visit your home altar?
In setting up a home altar constellation, you take the desired positive change and then ask questions about two different areas. What are those areas? What are you looking for as you delve into those two areas?
Training Readings-- Read the Epilogue to HHFC (Health, Happiness, & Family Constellations). Read also the EFTFreeManual. Click on the title in the last sentence to download it. Please also read my 750 word blog "Good Health as a Sacred Fire" listed below in Relevant Reading Material
What is threatening overwhelm to a person's nervous system called? Why is that name ambiguous? What are the two ways this can happen talked about in Chapter 5?
Name and briefly describe the four forms of infant attachment talked about in Chapter 5.
When an arousal of energy in one place causes similar energies to become active in another place that is called what?
What is a "mirror neuron"? What is its function in the hard-wired, human, social empathy system?
List Michael's four guidelines for "healthy healing."
Relevant Reading Material
Michael Reddy, "Good Health as a Sacred Fire" (short blog), powerful metaphor for the problem materialistic specialism creates as it fails to understand chronic illnesses.
These are the visuals shown in the video. Click on the image to download the 9 page PDF. I would suggest downloading it because it is very good to use in explaining trauma to clients or general audiences.
Activities After Class Seven
Training Readings-- Read the the EFTFreeManual AGAIN, and learn the tapping points in order. Reread the TWR sections (last three boxes) of the handout you just downloaded (or download it now HERE if you watched it on the video but did not download it), and learn the very simple sequence of steps in TWR.
Slides shown in Class Seven are in Powerpoint. See them again by reviewing the class video, or you can download and view them (if you have Powerpoint) HERE
What part of the midbrain starts to shut down as stress or threatening overwhelm afflict a human nervous system? What actions of the left brain don't take place when this shutdown occurs?
What does Michael mean when he says that "trauma scales"?
What is the difference between a flashback and blurbacks? Which is more commonly encountered?
What does Michael mean when he says that "trauma cascades"? What are the four levels involved in this?
Michael names 5 ways that our subconscious social empathy systems connect us to one another. What are they?
Relevant Reading Material Patterson & Grenny, Crucial Conversations--Tools for Talking When the Stakes are High McGilchrist, Iain,The Master and His Emissary--The Divided Brain and the Making of the Western World Van der Kolk, Bessel, The Body Keeps the Score Benor, Daniel J. Seven Minutes to Natural Pain Release Craig, Gary. The EFT Manual. Gallo, Fred P. Energy Tapping for Trauma Levine, Peter A. In an Unspoken Voice Ogden, Minton, and Pain. Trauma and the Body Scaer, Robert. The Trauma Spectrum Siegel, Daniel J. Mindsight
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Activities After Class Eight
What are some reasons to do a screening for inherited, ancestral trauma?
Name at least 3 of the stages on the spectrum between slim and bulky constellations.
List 4 of the 8 guidelines for Setting Up the parts of entangled wholes (inner or outer families).
What is the rationale behind Michael's guideline "Personify Anything"?
Why can we expect to find family-like structures in all kinds of human groups?
Relevant Reading Material Deborah Donndelinger, Family Energetics: A Revolutionary Approach To Heal the Past and Reshape Your Future Thaddeus Golas, Lazy Man's Guide to Enlightenment Insa Sparrer, Miracle, Solution and System
Many thanks to everyone for participating in the course!